David Tuffley

1 The Essence of Buddhism

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Religion & Spirituality  Books  Buddhism 
Price :  Free
Release Date :  2010-10-06
Description :  This eBook allows you to grasp the basic principles of Buddhism in just a few minutes.<br /><br />Much has been written about Buddhism and how to practice it. Readers will have no difficulty finding hundreds of books on the topic. It simply focuses on the essence of Buddhism, as expressed in the Four Noble Truths and the Eight-fold Path. It is what the Buddha first talked about after he became enlightened – this is what makes it the essence.<br /><br />Reading this eBook should not conflict with your existing religious belief, since strictly speaking, Buddhism is not a religion. It does not extol belief in an external God. It does not seek to replace your existing religious beliefs, only to supplement them with a practical but profound set of psychological principles.<br /><br />The Buddha, in all likelihood, would rather his followers describe themselves simply as Followers of The Way.

2 Meditation: The Essence

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  $1.99
Release Date :  2011-05-28
Description :  This eBook outlines the distilled essence of meditation practice. It is based on a broad study of the many meditation traditions that have grown up over time in different parts of the world.<br />Once you know the essential basics, you can adapt the technique to suit your needs. Meditation is something that can be learned in a few minutes, but which can take a lifetime to perfect. The greater the truth, the more simply it can be expressed. Think of Einstein’s E=mc2 (the energy contained in an object equals the mass of the object multiplied by the square of the speed of light).<br /><br />Inner peace by definition comes from within and not derived from an external source, though the right external sources can occasionally trigger the inner experience. Many people in the busy, consumer driven societies of the 21st century have been told to seek fulfilment outside of themselves. Constant messages from the media tell us to define ourselves by owning the latest consumer products. Implicit in those messages is that you will feel unfulfilled unless you have those products and services. Consumerism is not necessarily a bad thing; it has led to a steady improvement in people’s quality of life in general. Consumerism is a problem in a person’s progress towards enlightenment when one’s perspective is limited to the view that consumerism is all there is.<br /><br />Meditation establishes primary attention on your inner self. You can continue to live in the material world, but that world must be put into its proper perspective as being your secondary reality.<br /><br />Meditation creates a peaceful inner space within which you can become aware of the more subtle aspects of yourself that have been hitherto obscured by the noise of the outer world. In this space, your Intuition grows stronger, revealing to you a rich stream of subtle knowledge to help you understand yourself and the world you find yourself in. Meditation can therefore lead to great happiness. Plus, it is free and completely natural.

3 Being Happy: Part 1

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body 
Price :  Free
Release Date :  2011-04-09
Description :  True happiness, lasting happiness can be achieved through a process known as Self-Actualisation, or Self-Realisation. This is a natural state and within the reach of all human beings. It comes from having satisfied all of one’s human needs.<br /><br />This is the kind of happiness that cannot be obtained through the acquisition of things. The fleeting gratification in receiving goods or services is not true happiness. That is an illusion created by our global consumer society. I am not suggesting that you should avoid having nice things, just that they are not a source of true happiness.<br /><br />Truly happy people are Self-Actualised (SA) people, so called because they are a much fuller expression of their unique human potential than non SA people. The state has been given many labels, enlightened or awakened being two of them. In Zen, it is described Satori.<br /><br />While you cannot order happiness on demand, you can create the right conditions in yourself for Self-Actualisation to occur. This eBook describes what these conditions are, and how you might go about creating them. The rest is up to you.<br /><br />The humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow is well-known for his ideas on a hierarchy of human needs. Basic needs must be satisfied before higher order needs are felt. The hierarchy is represented as a pyramid, with the basic needs at the pyramids broad base, and with self-actualisation at the apex. A Self-Actualised person has found a way to satisfy all of his or her lower needs and has cultivated the conscious awareness of their highest self. They allow this awareness to express itself more fully in their lives.<br /><br />The achievement of Self-Actualisation is recognised by Maslow as a human need, so in a sense it is everyone’s birthright to be happy.<br /><br />The need for Self-Actualisation asserts itself once we have satisfied the lowest-order needs for food, shelter, sex, then middle-order needs for safety and security, then the higher middle-order needs for love and belonging. Above these is the higher-order need for self-esteem. The highest need of all, sitting like the capstone of a pyramid is the need for Self-Actualisation.<br /><br />The annals of various religions tell us that a person can achieve enlightenment with only some or none of the higher and middle order needs being met, and with only the barest of lower-order needs like food and shelter being satisfied. This is more difficult, requiring you to become an ascetic recluse and engage in mortification of the flesh in order to free yourself of these normal human needs. This eBook is not recommending this course of action. Our body is not an impediment to happiness. Quite the opposite, it is a great ally. We owe it to ourselves to take the best care of our body that we can by eating well, getting enough exercise and rest, and avoiding toxic and/or addictive substances.<br /><br />Self-Actualised (SA) people, whoever they are and whatever the circumstances of their lives, tend to approach life in the ways described in this eBook.

4 Raising Your Self-Esteem

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Psychology 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2011-10-05
Description :  It is a rare person in the world today who could not benefit with some help with improving their self-esteem. We are all imperfect, make mistakes, have problems. While it might seem that the people around you are doing so much better than you, the reality is that they are probably just as messed-up and confused.<br /><br />We cannot help but compare ourselves with the people around us. And in the media, we see idealised versions of perfect people. Despite putting on a brave face, most people judge themselves to be inferior.<br />There is one benefit to feeling this way; it can make you take a good hard look at yourself, and motivate you to make some changes.<br /><br />So this eBook is for you if you feel inferior to others, not worthy, flawed, unlovable, unattractive, or just generally a loser.<br />Be encouraged by the certain knowledge that you already have the capabilities to change these negative beliefs into positive ones that will help you find a whole new enjoyment in life.<br /><br />Definition of self-esteem<br /><br />Self-esteem is our evaluation of ourselves; a measure of our perceived worth. It is what we believe and how we feel about ourselves. It is also influenced by what other people think of us.<br /><br />It is a judgment that we make. Being judgmental is helpful up to a point, but as you will read in this eBook, it can be a harmful mental habit when taken too far. It gets in the way of understanding a person or situation clearly because having decided that something is good or bad, we have effectively declared the matter closed. No further investigation required.<br />We judge the people in our lives (I like her, but I don’t like him), and we also judge ourselves (I’m so stupid).<br /><br />We have to lighten up on ourselves and everyone else too by becoming less judgmental.

5 Email Etiquette: Netiquette in the Information Age

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Internet  Books  Computers & Internet 
Price :  Free
Release Date :  2011-03-27
Description :  There are no 'official' rules governing electronic communication. While there have been attempts to establish one standard or another as the default, there is no common agreement. So beware people telling you there is one right way, they are assuming too much. As a general rule though, netiquette involves the same principles as plain old etiquette -- basic courtesy, respect and ethics. Treat people the way you would want to be treated yourself.<br /><br />By following the principles outlined below, the recipient of your email will be more likely to read and act, if not be favorably impressed by your message:<br /><br />Subject line to summarise the message. Make the Subject line summarise the body of the e-mail. Ask yourself, 'will the recipient(s) know what this e-mail is about'. For example, Instead of Subject: Exam, say Subject: Location of 1508INT Exam, 23 July 2011.<br /><br />Don't assume the recipient knows the background. Include enough contextual information at the beginning of the e-mail for the recipient to know what the matter is about. If in doubt, put background information in. For example, don't say can I have an extension for my assignment?, instead say I refer to the CIT3622 assignment 1 that I handed in late. I was ill and have a doctor's certificate. May I ask for an extension on the basis that I was too ill to do it on time?<br />Keep it concise. Keep messages brief and to the point, but not so brief that it causes the problem outlined in the previous point. This includes deleting any irrelevant text when an email has been back and forth several times. No-one wants to scroll down through pages of text in order to reach the message they want to read. If the sense of the email will be lost by deleting that text, however, leave it in.<br /><br />Reply within 24 hours. Try to reply within 24 hours, less if possible. In fact, get in the habit of replying immediately -- it is the polite thing to do, and the recipient will appreciate a prompt reply. It also makes you look efficient. The longer you leave it to reply, the more likely you will forget or have too big a log-jam of unanswered email.<br /><br />Allow time for a reply. E-mail messages are not usually required to be answered immediately, though it is good practice if you do. Before sending a reminder, allow some time for a response, some times even a few days. Not everyone is online 24 hours a day.<br /><br />Use the BCC field when sending bulk email. If you're sending email to a whole list of people, put their email addresses in the BCC field. That way, the privacy of the recipient is respected, and spammers cannot harvest the email addresses for their dastardly purposes.

6 Communing with Nature

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Spirituality  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2010-10-06
Description :  Felt-connectedness with all things<br /><br />Enlightenment occurs spontaneously when you create the right conditions in your consciousness. The foundation of this mind-set is having a sense of felt connectedness with all things in the Universe. You feel that you are intimately connected with everything else in the Universe, not separate as your egoic mind would lead you to believe.<br /><br />To cultivate this awareness of connectedness, remind yourself that all entities in the Universe are temporary. They arise from the primordial source, exist for a time, and then dissolve back into the source. There are no exceptions. You and I are an expression of this underlying source and share the same destiny along with everything else.<br /><br />A Physicist would say that in the Universe there is constant movement from energy to matter and back to energy. Imagine an animated Yin-Yang symbol with its spiral movement. Think of what a moving fractal looks like. These are representations of this constantly moving cycle. Our challenge is to not resist this movement. It is futile to try. We must make a virtue of necessity and embrace this movement wholeheartedly, surrendering to the flow.<br /><br />Surrendering to the flow means letting go of the mental concepts that form the structures of your sense of identity. Let go of them willingly instead of clinging to them until they are taken away forcibly by the movement of time. These structures were never permanent, and you need not fear losing them. They are not the real you.<br /><br />Consider the Taoist metaphor of being swimmers in the great river of life. We can go with or against the current. The river does not mind either way. Many people swim against the current as they play their various games and become exhausted without making much progress, their lifeless bodies eventually floating out to sea.<br /><br />The wise among us know that we are all destined to flow into the ocean at the end of our lives, so they swim peacefully with the current, enjoying the journey and arrive at the ocean knowing that this was always their destination.<br /><br />You need not worry that by swimming with the current you will arrive at the sea too soon. The river mouth in this metaphor is not a fixed point. You reach the sea when you have exhausted your life force. By swimming with the current you achieve movement while conserving you life force.

7 Airline Passenger Etiquette: Guide to Modern Airline Travel

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Travel & Adventure  Books  Nonfiction  Transportation 
Price :  $0.99
Release Date :  2012-04-25
Description :  The 21st Century has seen a rapid rise in the number of people travelling by air. What was once only affordable by the super-rich is now accessible by people of even quite limited means. We have seen the emergence of the budget, no frills airlines. It has never been so inexpensive to travel, and the trend is set to continue well into the foreseeable future.<br /><br />Applying mainly to people travelling Economy (or Coach) class, this eBook is a how to guide for people wanting to make the experience more tolerable if not enjoyable for themselves and their fellow travellers. Its basic message is common sense and consideration for others. It encourages you to ask yourself before you do anything, how would I like it if someone did this to me? This is a silver bullet formula that works in almost any situation in life.<br /><br />The psychology of airline travel<br /><br />There is something about airline travel that brings out the worst in people. The phenomena has much to do with (a) claustrophobia leading to heightened anxiety, and (b) the perceived invasion of personal space leading to attempts to reclaim it.<br /><br />Claustrophobia<br /><br />Cramming strangers shoulder to shoulder, elbow to elbow into an aluminium tube for many hours, thinning the available oxygen so it is like being on a 4000 metre (10,000 feet) high mountain, then hurtling that tube through the sky at close to the speed of sound at an altitude of 10 kilometres (6 miles) are the ideal conditions for any sane person to experience some degree of claustrophobia.<br /><br />Personal space (Proxemics)<br /><br />Everyone of us as we go through life maintains four concentric zones (like a bulls-eye target) around us; Intimate space (0 to 45 cm), Personal space (45 to 120cm), Social space (1.2 to 3.7 metres) and Public space (3.7 to 8 metres and beyond). These are average figures. Actual figures vary from culture to culture.<br /><br />It is not difficult to see where the problem with airline travel arises, indeed with any form of public transport where we are crammed together with strangers. People we do not know belong in the public space (no closer than 3.7 metres or 12 feet away from us if we are to feel comfortable. Instead, these strangers are put into intimate (0 to 45 cm) contact with us as our shoulders and elbows unavoidably rub together.<br /><br />Our instincts are telling us that this is a violation, while our rational minds try to keep our rising indignation under control. If we are not mindful though, our instincts assert themselves in a variety of ways and here is where the problems arise for the people around us.<br />All of these factors combine to create a sense of discomfort with our present situation and the desire to escape from it as soon as possible. Observe how most passengers stand up as soon as the plane comes to a rest at its destination, even though everyone knows it will be several minutes before anyone can actually get off the plane. The rational thing to do would be to stay seated and relaxed until it is possible to stand up and walk off.<br /><br />An attitude of gratitude<br /><br />Gratitude is an emotion that has enormous power, both in making a journey more pleasant and in life generally, but which few people understand in our consumer-driven world that encourages dissatisfaction and complaint.<br /><br />What is there to be grateful for with economy air travel? Well quite a lot actually. A hundred years ago, travelling several thousand kilometres would have been immensely arduous, time-consuming, uncomfortable and dangerous, not to mention expensive. How fortunate you are to be able to avoid all that for just a few hundred dollars and a couple of hours of your valuable time. Unless we figure out how to beam people from place to place like in Star Trek, it is still the easiest way to get to far-off places.

8 Anger Management: a Self-Help Guide

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Family & Relationships  Books  Nonfiction  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-01-15
Description :  Anger is part of the ancient arsenal of survival instincts that we inherited from our evolutionary past. Our ancestral environment was a dangerous place in which people struggled to survive and anger got us ready to fight for our lives.<br /><br />In your world today, are there still dangers lurking around every corner and behind every bush? I hope not. More likely, you live in a more-or-less civilised society that has solved many of the challenges to survival that faced our ancestors. For many of us though, our survival instincts are still on high alert, as though we are back in the jungle or on the savannah and predators were never far away.<br /><br />If we live in a civilised world, why do we still get angry? Our circumstances may have changed, but our basic natures have not. We are very similar, genetically-speaking, to our ancestors from 100,000 years ago. If you took a man or woman from that far distant time, cleaned them up, gave them a good haircut and dressed them in modern clothes, they would be indistinguishable from anyone else on the street.<br /><br />Part of the reason for people’s anger in the modern world is that it is a complicated, crowded, often confusing place. We evolved in extended family groups of less than a hundred, often much less. Large crowds feel threatening to many people for this reason.<br /><br />Modern life requires us to behave ourselves for the good of society, but the crowded, complex nature of modern life is itself the cause of primitive behaviour. We are not supposed to feel that way, but we do. It makes us feel that there must be something wrong with us.

9 The 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Buddhism  Books  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2011-03-24
Description :  Thirty-seven Practices of a Bodhisattva is an ancient text written in the 14th Century BCE by Tokme Zangpo, a Buddhist monk and scholar who was born in Puljung, south west of the Sakya Monastery in Tibet.<br /><br />Thirty-seven Practices seeks to make clear the day-to-day behavior of a Bodhisattva (an enlightened being on their way to attaining full Buddhahood for the benefit of all sentient beings). It serves as a practical guide for those people seeking to travel the path of enlightenment. Though short in length, a person could spend a lifetime perfecting the practices.<br /><br />The work can be seen as a companion to Santideva’s classic work the Bodhicaryavatara.<br />While there are English translations of this text, they are a little difficult to understand for many readers living in the 21st Century. The mode of expression and the figures of speech are the product of that far-off time. This book faithfully re-expresses in modern day language the underlying message of the original text. Every effort has been made to preserve the underlying spirit of the message.<br /><br />While I respect the beauty of the original text, my greatest wish is to bring the even greater beauty of the underlying message to a whole new audience in the modern world who might otherwise find the original text less than easy to fully understand.<br /><br />Tokme Zangpo dedicates the text to:<br /><br />The Bodhisattva Lokesvara whose compassion extends to all sentient beings and whose example inspires me*.<br />- Those who perceive that the physical world is but an illusion and have entered the path to enlightenment for the benefit of all sentient beings.<br />- All the venerable mentors who have shown me the path to enlightenment.<br />- All the realised Buddhas.<br /><br />To achieve the fullest realisation of the Dharma, one must live in full awareness of the correct practices that lead to such realisation. This text humbly attempts to explain what any Bodhisattva has done, and any would-be Bodhisattva must do in order to achieve enlightenment.<br /><br />* Throughout this book, the first person “I” “me” and “my” refers to the author Tokme Zangpo.<br /><br />Sample Practice (20)<br /><br />Our inner demons are our most formidable enemy, greater than any external enemy.<br /><br />Struggling with our inner enemies makes them stronger and greater in number. This is not the way to defeat them.<br /><br />Until and unless we learn to master our inner enemies they will continue to thrive and they will open the way for negative forces outside of ourselves to invade us.<br /><br />These enemies can only be mastered through mercy and love; therefore we work to cultivate these. When negativity arises in our mind-stream, we are mindful of its rising and immediately neutralise it with love.<br /><br />This is the way of the Bodhisattva.<br /><br />Commentary: The mental afflictions that derive from unevolved behavior can be neutralised by noticing when they arise, and mindfully replacing them with kindness and a loving attitude generally.<br /><br />The unevolved behavior mentioned here is how our distant ancestors behaved in a savage, uncivilised world. Being proud and competitive, fighting over sexual partners, property and land was once a helpful way to survive in the distant past. Have you noticed how many people still act this way today when it is unnecessary?<br /><br />This might be our instinctive behavior, but it is no help whatever for the one travelling the path to enlightenment. You must transcend this “normal” behavior and in the process transcend your base self. Identify with your highest self, not your inner caveman.

10 The Bodhicaryavatara: A Guide to the Bodhisattva Way of Life

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Religion & Spirituality  Books  Buddhism 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2011-03-04
Description :  The Bodhicaryavatara is an ancient text written in Sanskrit around 700 CE by Santideva, Buddhist monk and scholar who lived at the Nalanda Monastic University in India.<br />The Bodhicaryavatara roughly translates to A Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life. A Bodhisattva is an enlightened being on their way to attaining full Buddhahood for the benefit of all sentient beings. The text has ten chapters that explain how to develop bodhicitta, or the enlightened mind.<br />Earlier English translations of this text are accurate but difficult to understand for many readers living in the 21st Century. The mode of expression and the figures of speech are the product of that far-off time. This book faithfully re-expresses in modern day language the underlying message of the original text. Every effort has been made to preserve the underlying spirit of the message.<br />There will be those who object to the changing of the outward form of this much-loved classic. While the author respects the beauty of the original text, the governing principle is to bring the even greater beauty of the underlying message to a whole new audience in the modern world who might otherwise find the original less than easy to fully understand.<br />If you are embarking on the path to enlightenment, or just curious, this slim little book could be just the change agent you have been looking for. It is said to be one of the Dalai Lama's favorite texts.<br />Chapter 1 The Benefit of the Spirit of Awakening<br />Chapter 2 The Confession of Error<br />Chapter 3 Adopting the Spirit of Awakening<br />Chapter 4 Attending to the Spirit of Awakening<br />Chapter 5 Guarding Introspection<br />Chapter 6 The Perfection of Patience<br />Chapter 7 The Perfection of Zeal<br />Chapter 8 The Perfection of Meditation<br />Chapter 9 The Perfection of Wisdom<br />Chapter 10 The Post-Dedication

11 Cultivating Intuition

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Spirituality  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2010-10-06
Description :  Intuition can be cultivated by building an awareness of how your microcosmic inner self is a small but perfectly formed representation of the macrocosm outside. This is how you are connected to all things; in a sense you are all things. The felt awareness of this ultimate Truth is Enlightenment. You don't just think it, you feel that it is true, know it at a deep level.

12 Zen Koans: In Today's Language

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2010-10-03
Description :  Koans are a useful sign-post on the path to enlightenment. They reveal abstract Truth that cannot be expressed logically through presenting the reader with a paradox that can only be solved by shifting one's perspective.<br /><br />The venerable Koans of the past, those that have been handed down through the generations are expressed in archaic language. If you cannot enter into that archaic language the koan is unlikely to bring you much benefit.<br /><br />This book represents the Koans in modern language, accessible to all. It will not please the traditionalists, but it will make the wisdom contained therein accessible to a whole new generation of seeker.<br /><br />Each koan encapsulates a profound truth for reflection. Zen counsels the lessening of the ego, not the strengthening of it as consumer culture would urge. Instead of making a name for ourselves in society, we should listen to the voice of pines and cedars when no wind stirs, in other words become no-thing, entering instead the field of pure being that is behind the phenomenal world.

13 Being Assertive: Finding the Sweet-Spot Between Passive and Aggressive

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-01-21
Description :  Assertiveness is a zone on the spectrum of human behaviour that lies between Passivity and Aggression. This book shows you how to find that zone, that sweet-spot; not always an easy thing to do.<br /><br />Being Assertive is fundamentally about rights; yours and those of others and finding a balance between them. An aggressive person violates the rights of others, while the passive person violates their own. The assertive person finds a win-win way to balance these sometimes competing interests.<br /><br />Learning to live in the zone of assertiveness has many benefits; your self-esteem will improve, the quality of your relationships with others will improve and deepen.<br /><br />Being aggressive, like using verbal or physical threats, may get people what they want in the short term, but their relationships will inevitably suffer.<br /><br />Being passive is also destructive of relationships and long-term happiness because your own needs are being ignored for the sake of getting along with others.<br /><br />Being assertive is where the sweet spot is. Here, your needs, wants and feelings are likely to be understood, you don’t hurt people unintentionally, everyone feels respected, if not understood, your relationships become stronger, you have fewer arguments, feel more in control of your life and you generally feel better about yourself. These are just some of the benefits.

14 Being Happy: Part 2

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $2.99
Release Date :  2013-10-10
Description :  In Being Happy Part 1 we explored the dynamics of happiness through self-actualisation, the achievement of your fullest potential. In Part 2, we discuss the work of Martin Seligman, a foremost proponent of the positive psychology movement and a leading source of advice on being happy.<br /><br />As the name suggests, positive psychology focuses on what is good, what is working in a person’s life. Its aim is to find ways build on people’s strengths, help them to find happiness and to achieve their full potential. This is in contrast to traditional psychology that focussed on what is wrong with a person.<br /><br />After a broad ranging review of the various prescriptions for happiness, from such diverse sources as the Buddha to Tony Robbins, Seligman identifies three distinct ways to find happiness; the Pleasant Life, the Engaged Life and the Meaningful Life.<br /><br />In the fullest sense, the happiest of lives are those where all three are cultivated and practiced. Seligman found, somewhat to his surprise, that Pleasure alone contributes little to a lasting sense of happiness and fulfilment. He compares it to "the whipped cream and the cherry" that tops off a life spent in the simultaneous pursuit of meaning and engagement.<br /><br />Then we take a detailed look at other happiness inducing factors that Seligman has identified in the course of a long and distinguished career in positive psychology.<br /><br />CONTENTS<br /><br />INTRODUCTION<br />THREE KINDS OF HAPPY LIFE<br />QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS<br />SELFLESS CARING<br />HEALTHY MIND IN A HEALTHY BODY<br />SPIRITUAL MEANING<br />OPTIMISM – LEARNED OR INHERENT<br />MINDFULNESS<br />FLOW<br />BUILDING ON YOUR STRENGTHS &amp; VIRTUES<br />STRATEGIC NON-ACTION – WU WEI<br />NOT TAKING OFFENCE<br />ABOUT THE AUTHOR

15 Einssein mit der Natur

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Nature  Books  Science & Nature  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  Free
Release Date :  2011-04-16
Description :  Ich habe immer von der Natur als die Manifestation des kosmischen Geistes auf der physischen Ebene gedacht. Es ist ein weit verbreitetes nicht-konzeptuelle Intelligenz, die Natur durchdringt und die findet ihren Ausdruck in den Milliarden von Lebewesen und komplizierte Ökosysteme, aus denen sich die Biosphäre unseres Planeten.<br /><br />Wer die Zeit, um die Natur kennen investiert ist reich für ihre Mühe belohnt. Um Erfahrung enger Gemeinschaft mit der Natur ist eine der größten Freuden ein Mensch haben kann. Umso mehr, weil es kostenlos ist nicht an Bedingungen geknüpft.<br /><br />Zwiesprache mit der Natur ist ein Weg zur Erleuchtung. Die Natur will, dass du mit ihm zu kommunizieren. Wenn Sie Ihre Meinung in die Natur zu erweitern, wird es seine Meinung in deine verlängern, Treffen Sie auf halbem Weg und schafft Gemeinsamkeiten und enthüllt ihre erstaunliche Schönheit auf Ihre Intuition.<br /><br />Hier ist, wie Sie Ihre Höchste Selbst durch die Zusammenlegung deinen Verstand mit den größeren Geist der Natur zu wecken.

16 The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius: A Primer

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Philosophy  Books  Nonfiction  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-01-10
Description :  The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius is a perennial, belonging to a very special category of book that has but a few members out of the millions of books ever published; longevity. It has a simple, powerful message that is as fresh and useful today as it was nearly two thousand years ago. The greater the Truth, the more simply it can be put. The original book states a few great Truths, and states them very simply.<br /><br />That alone makes it worthy of careful study, but it has more to commend it than that. The greater the Truth, the more simply it can be put. The original book states a few great Truths, and states them very simply.<br /><br />Meditations is basically the author’s personal journal, written in private over a ten year period. It is doubtful whether he intended it to ever be read by others. It was a way for him to remind himself what he recognised as being most important to remember about Life.<br />As a result, there is much repetition of ideas. A few big ideas are constantly discussed, these being uppermost in the author’s mind as the months and years rolled by.<br /><br />Therefore this Primer provides a summary of the recurrent ideas of Meditations, and does so in 21st Century language, easily accessible to modern readers. It presents the first five books as being representative of the entire twelve books. This is sufficient to grasp the essence of the original.<br /><br />In Meditations you come to know the real man, and to the reader this can seem an extraordinary privilege. But the man was also an emperor, and no ordinary emperor, one of the finest in Rome’s illustrious history. A truly remarkable man by any standard, but as you will see, a modest, even humble man. Even today, Meditations stands tall as a guide to staying calm under pressure when there is a difficult job to do.<br />Marcus Aurelius might have been a Roman, but his thinking had been shaped, like so many educated Romans, by the classical period of ancient Greece. Indeed, Meditations was written in Greek. Even today, classical Greek thinking still permeates the foundations of Western civilisation.

17 Beginner’s Guide to Boating: A How to Guide

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Sports & Outdoors  Books  Reference 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2013-02-14
Description :  Beginner's Guide to Boating is everything an absolute beginner needs to get out there on the water and start enjoying life far from the madding crowd, out where it is just you and the sea and sky.<br /><br />If you're planning on buying a boat or already have one that's not being used, it's time to learn how to use it. You can start this great learning journey by reading Beginner's Guide to Boating.<br /><br />Beginner's Guide to Boating is a simple and no-nonsense approach to recreational boating. It’s a manual that you will find useful from start to finish.<br /><br />This book lets you in on the secrets to boating success. For starters, the book lays out the fundamentals of boating by discussing the general topics every boater needs to know. This book gives you the knowledge and motivation you need to finally get your boat out on the water.<br /><br />One of the first things discussed is how to buy a boat. There are many different kinds of boats, each used for a different activity. Knowing what type of boat you want depending on what you plan to use it for is the first step. Also, this book will give you the tips on how and where to buy a boat, including information on financing.<br /><br />Setting up your boat is also discussed in this book. There are many things to consider before getting your boat out on the water. Ensuring safety and having the right equipment on your boat are only a few things you'll need to do first. It's important to make sure you, your guests, and your boat are sea-ready.<br /><br />To cater to the many boating activities, Beginner's Guide to Boating goes into detail on boat types. You will learn what boats are used for each kind of recreation. If you're not sure on what type of boat you want, your search ends here. You will know what boat type is best for you.<br /><br />Contents:<br /><br />Preface<br />Introduction<br />Chapter 1: What boat to buy?<br />Chapter 2: Buying a used boat<br />Chapter 3: Where to buy<br />Chapter 4: Boat financing<br />Chapter 5: Insurance &amp; registration<br />Chapter 6: Maintenance<br />Chapter 7: Emergency repairs<br />Chapter 8: Boat equipment<br />Chapter 9: Getting on the water<br />Chapter 10: Rules of the ‘road’<br />Chapter 11: Boat safety<br />Chapter 12: Etiquette for guests<br />Chapter 13: Children<br />Chapter 14: Emergencies<br />Conclusion<br />Glossary of Nautical terms<br /><br />Being out on the water, whether it is freshwater or salt has a special appeal for almost everyone. There is something deeply embedded in human nature that loves the water. Maybe it is because our bodies are 50% water in the first place, or maybe it is because our evolutionary ancestors were semi-aquatic, finding plentiful nourishing food and an agreeable lifestyle from living next to and swimming in the water.<br /><br />Whatever the reason, the attraction of boating for many people is undeniable. Perhaps you have harboured a desire to own a boat and be able to go out on the water whenever you feel like it but do not really know how to go about it. After all, boating is not without its dangers for the unprepared and the foolhardy. You want a primer to get you started. This book has been written for you.<br /><br />Boating is much more than just launching a boat, starting the engine or hoisting the sails and off you go. Experienced sailors make it seem easy. Well the good news is that while there quite a lot to know, it is mostly all common sense that can be learned through a combination of reading and practical experience.<br /><br />Boating can be a rewarding solitary activity, or something you do with a close friend in the nature of a hunting expedition. Or you can do it as a family or with a group of friends and have loads of fun. The possibilities and locations are endless.<br /><br />Boating reduces stress and enriches your life in countless ways. It doesn’t matter if you’re learning to water ski, relaxing as you try to catch a fish, or just lounging on deck and enjoying a sunset, boating enriches your quality of life.<br /><br />In many parts of the world, around 90% of people live an hour or so from a navigable body of water.

18 Desolation Row: Bob Dylan’s epic poem revisited

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Music  Books  Arts & Entertainment  Biographies & Memoirs 
Price :  $2.99
Release Date :  2012-08-17
Description :  Desolation Row (released in August 1965 on the album Highway 61 Revisited) is not your average pop song. More like an epic poem set to music. Its epic-ness comes not from its relatively short length as epic poems go, but from the depth and breadth of its themes. It is very rare to find a song with such density of meaning. Most songs on the radio do not stray much past the theme of romantic love. As Douglas Adams observed in Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy most (pop) songs are on the whole very simple and mostly follow the familiar theme of boy-being meets girl-being under a silvery moon.<br />Dylan is not only a deep thinker, but also a broad thinker who is able to articulate and condense his ideas into elegant verse. He has been described as one of the most significant poets of the Twentieth Century. Sir Andrew Motion, the British Poet Laureate in 1999 cited another of Dylan’s songs, Visions of Johanna, as a contender for the greatest song lyric ever written.<br /><br />Dylan is remarkably well-read, having delved into the classic texts of many different cultures. In Desolation Row he takes these themes and weaves a rich fabric that expresses the reality of 1960’s America. By tapping into these archetypes, the poem gets its power to reach people at a deep level.<br /><br />When asked by a radio interviewer why he insisted on being so irritating, Dylan replied so where do you get the idea that I want people to like my music. It is more important to challenge people’s complacency and get them to think about their values.

19 The Writing Process

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Writing  Books  Reference 
Price :  $2.99
Release Date :  2011-06-13
Description :  The Writing Process is a practical, plain English guide for people who are not experienced writers of non-technical prose. By diligently applying the principles outlined here, you will extend your writing capability towards a professional level. The examples in this eBook relate to computer user manuals, however the principles apply to all kinds of non-technical writing.<br /><br />Clear, easy-to-understand writing can be achieved by following the simple principles outlined here. While these principles can be simply expressed, it can take a lifetime of effort fully master them. Not to worry though, the sooner you start, the sooner you will notice an improvement.<br /><br />A note about simplicity; the Physicist Albert Einstein once famously observed that the greater the truth, the more simply it can be expressed. You know you have achieved mastery over a subject when you are able to explain it in simple terms.<br />George Orwell demonstrated consummate mastery over the process of writing, and as a result, he expressed the truth about writing in the simplest possible terms.<br /><br />This eBook is a summary of Orwell’s principles of clear writing. I (the author of this eBook) have been making a living as a writer since the early 1990’s. These principles have been the bedrock upon which a writing career spanning decades has been based. I am enormously grateful to Orwell for providing them. Let them work for you too.

20 Leadership & the Tao A new look at the timeless question “What is Leadership?”

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Business & Personal Finance  Management & Leadership 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2010-10-28
Description :  For thousands of years people have tried to understand the elusive quality of Leadership. Still no consensus. What it means to be a leader differs according to the circumstances. This book examines the timeless, underlying qualities that must be present in a person if they are to be perceived as a leader by those around them.

21 Guide to Effective Report Writing

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Writing  Books  Reference 
Price :  $2.99
Release Date :  2011-06-12
Description :  The Guide to Effective Report Writing outlines a practical method for professionals in a wide range of disciplines to develop and maintain reports that address the needs of the reader and which are expressed in language easily understood by the reader.

22 Being Anxious: Help for Social Anxiety

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-08-13
Description :  Social anxiety (or social phobia) is the debilitating fear of interacting with people. At its heart is the belief that you are being negatively judged, which leads you to avoid those situations where being judged is a possibility. To make matters worse, it is a self-reinforcing fear in which the more often you avoid situations, the more established and habitual the fear of negative judgement becomes.<br /><br />You can understand the nature of social anxiety by seeing it in its evolutionary perspective. In our evolutionary past, strangers were dangerous. Being wary of them helped us to survive. There were the family and close friends inside our circle of trust, and then there was everyone else. There was only ever ‘us and them’.<br /><br />The world is not as dangerous as it once was. The foundation for dealing with social anxiety is to understand at a rational level that in today’s world we do not need to be so scared of strangers. As dangerous as they might once have been, today they are less dangerous. To watch the news on TV or read the newspapers, you could be forgiven for thinking that the world is a dangerous place indeed, but that is a distortion of reality. Every year the world becomes a little safer and more civilised as Stephen Pinker points out in his 2011 book The Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined.<br /><br />Rigorously enforced laws that guarantee individual rights have seen to that. We all know that if we attack someone we will find ourselves incarcerated with a criminal record. We have learned to restrain our violent impulses. On the rare occasion when someone does become violent, often under the influence of inhibition-reducing alcohol, they are publicly shamed on TV news and sent to jail or made to pay a hefty fine.<br /><br />The carrot and the stick. Since Roman times, violent offenders have been put in prison where they cannot breed. At the same time, altruistic behaviour is rewarded by society. This carrot and stick approach is gradually reducing the overall proportion of people with violent tendencies in the general population, while increasing the proportion of helpful, well-intentioned people. This process has been on-going for nearly 2,000 years, which represents roughly 6,000 generations of people.<br />I am not suggesting that violence does not still occur in the world, only that it is gradually declining, a fact which is proven by the hard evidence presented by Professor Pinker.<br /><br />We did not evolve surrounded by millions of strangers. We do not need to fear strangers in the way our ancestors did 10,000+ years ago. In those days, people lived in small nomadic groups, very often a single multi-generational family group. Everyone knew everyone else. Children were raised by the community. There were no towns or cities, much less the mega-cities of today. Even though we evolved as small group dwellers, the reality of life today in the 21st Century is that more than half of the world’s population lives in cities where you live surrounded by millions of strangers. This is always going to be stressful for people in whom the age-old instinctive fear of strangers is still strong.<br /><br />If you suffer from social anxiety, it is helpful to understand that what you have is a natural instinct that is being outraged by the conditions of modern life. The instinct is over-reacting; the perceived danger has become blown out of proportion to the actual danger. You are not defective; you just need to dial back the instinctive reaction to a more rational level.<br /><br />You can take a big step towards overcoming your social anxiety by activating your rational, logical mind and coming to understand the truth of modern city life. Our instincts tell us to be afraid of everyone we don’t know, and while some of those strangers should definitely be treated as potentially dangerous, the vast majority of strangers are normal, civilised people who would not dream of harming you.

23 Australian Slang: A Dictionary

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Travel & Adventure  Books  Reference  Foreign Languages 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2011-05-25
Description :  Aussie Slang is a performance art practiced everyday by ordinary Australians. To the outsider it can be difficult to understand. Yet once you enter into the mind-set, the language makes perfect sense. This eBook aims to give people a window into Australian life.<br /><br />At home, as a child in the East Brisbane suburb of Cannon Hill in the 1960’s, I grew up hearing my brother Steve and father Alec honing their skills at this classic Aussie lingo. In the neighborhood there were many old soldiers who had returned battered and bruised from World War II and the older soldiers who had served in WWI. In the homes of my school mates there were the stalwart wives and mothers who were the real glue of that society regardless of how irascible their men were. It is for these decent folk, now long gone, that I wrote this book.<br /><br />Aussie Slang is a richly-textured, often ribald world of understatement and laconic humour. This guide aims to do three things; (a) to help the traveller decipher what they hear around them in everyday Australian life, (b) give the causal reader some insight into informal Australian culture, and (c) make a record of some old Australian expressions that are slipping into disuse now that English has become a global language.<br /><br />Readers will recognize both British and American terms in this list. Australian English has absorbed much from these two great languages.<br /><br />For depth of knowledge of their own language, no-body beats the British. Its their language after all. A thousand years in the making, the English language is embedded deep in the DNA of the British. No-one uses their language more skilfully than they do.<br /><br />On the other hand, American English has a creative power that recognizes no boundaries. Americans have taken a very good all-purpose language and extended it in all kinds of directions with new words describing the world as it is today. They do not generally cling to old forms out of respect for tradition. As Winston Churchill observed, Britain and America … two great nations divided by the same language. Australian English sits comfortably in the space between the two.<br /><br />Australian English began in the early days of settlement as English English with a healthy dash of Celtic influence from the many Scots, Irish and Welsh settlers who came to Australia. Large numbers of German settlers also came in the 1800’s,and their influence on the language is also clearly evident.<br /><br />For over a hundred years, Australia developed in splendid isolation its unique blend of English, tempered by the hardships of heat and cold, deluge and drought, bushfires and cyclones. The harsh environment united people in a common struggle to survive. People helped each other. Strong communitarian loyalties were engendered. It is from this that the egalitarian character of Australia evolved. There is a strong emphasis on building a feeling of solidarity with others. Strangers will call each other "mate" or "luv" in a tone of voice ordinarily reserved for close friends and family in other parts of the world.<br /><br />Everyone was from somewhere else, and no-one was better than anyone else. A strong anti-authoritarian attitude became deeply embedded in Australian English. This was mainly directed towards their British overlords who still ran the country as a profitable colony.<br /><br />If Australian English has a remarkable quality, it is the absence of regional dialects. It is spoken with relative uniformity across the entire nation. Brisbane on the East coast is a 4,300 kilometre (2,700 mile) drive from Perth on the West coast, yet there is little discernable linguistic difference between the two places compared with the difference, for example between Boston and San Francisco in the US. Nowhere else in the world do we see such linguistic uniformity across large distances.

24 Genius: Habits of Highly Creative People

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-10-24
Description :  Genius is an often misunderstood though perennially interesting topic. Down through the ages, researchers have observed and studied the nature of genius in an effort to understand it. This book gives you the essence of that research. The material comes from across many cultures and historical periods. It is the lowest common denominator of this fascinating phenomenon, presented in plain English. The book explains the underlying nature of genius, charisma and leadership and gives you a series of exercises. If you take the time to read, understand and practice the principles outlined here, you will be well on your way to increasing your creative output and your ability to persuade others to listen to your ideas.<br /><br />In today’s globalised economy, we increasingly compete with low-cost workers in the developing world who charge much less for their labour. The labour market has expanded, and the competition has never been greater. The trend will continue well into the foreseeable future. As a knowledge worker, how can you increase your value in the market and future-proof your earning ability? The answer is to be able to generate great ideas that add value to whatever enterprise you work in. Creativity is a very bankable skill, regardless of where you work and what you do.<br /><br />Creativity, or indeed genius, can indeed be learned; it is how you think, rather than what you think that matters. Like leadership, You cannot conjure genius on demand. You can only create the right conditions and wait for it to spontaneously occur.<br /><br />Throughout this book, I use the terms ‘genius’ and ‘highly creative person’ interchangeably. A genius is a highly creative person who has a mind-set that generates creative output.<br /><br />Many people assume genius requires a high IQ, but this is not necessarily the case. It is far more about attitude, and attitude is learn-able. You can learn how to think and act like a genius. Is there a human alive who has reached their fullest potential? Possibly, but he or she is so rare as to be perhaps one in a billion. It is the nature of being human to be imperfect. We all have room for improvement.<br /><br />So what does it mean to be a genius? This book gives you a profile of how geniuses think and act, based on the work of researchers across cultures over time. It gives you the essence of being a genius. If you follow the advice and emulate these practices, you will create the right conditions for genius to manifest in your life. How successful you are will be largely dependent on how much time and effort you are prepared to invest in this most noble of endeavours.<br /><br />Genius can be understood as an aspect of the self-actualised person; someone who is in the process of living and expressing their unique human potential at its fullest. The process of self-actualisation is discussed in detail in this book.

25 Being Happy: Part 3 Managing Your Expectations

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Psychology 
Price :  $1.99
Release Date :  2014-06-21
Description :  Do you want to experience a greater sense of freedom in your everyday life? When you live your life with low or no expectations, you free yourself from being attached to preconceived ideas of how life should be. Having those expectations is a constant source of worry; what if it does not happen? When you have little or no expectations, you are free to simply live, to go with the flow and experience life as it comes.<br /><br />Living with low or no expectations is a tremendously liberating way to live. Feeling free and unencumbered is one kind of being happiness, one that you can generate within yourself without needing to rely on any external source.<br /><br />What’s wrong with expectations? The problem is they create an attachment to certain outcomes and fear that it won’t happen. Those outcomes have to occur for us to be happy or at least not sad. If things turn out some other way, we become upset and perhaps angry and these negative emotions then erode our happiness.<br /><br />When you have little or no expectations, you are free to simply live, to go with the flow and experience life as it comes.<br />Negative emotions like fear, doubt, worry and anger are the last things you want when trying to manifest your purpose. For this you need a calm sense of detachment. You act with confidence that your purpose will be fulfilled – the details will sort themselves out.<br /><br />From our limited perspective, it may sometimes seem that things are not working out, but we must not let fixed ideas get in the way of creative solutions. It is a sign that we are not seeing the larger picture. We need to trust that everything is happening as it should be happening in the larger scheme of events.<br /><br />Think of how it is with young children; they take life as it comes, moment-by-moment, accepting what happens without judgment. They have no fixed ideas, trust they will be provided for and believe that anything is possible.

26 The Pursuit of Happiness: The Art of Not Taking Offence & Going with the Flow

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2013-03-25
Description :  Happiness is an elusive quality for many people in today’s complex, often stressful world. There is however a powerful but little known secret in the pursuit of happiness. It can take a moment to learn and a lifetime to perfect. It is simply this; to not mind what happens and not react. The key to not minding what happens is to learn the gentle art of not taking offence at the things that happen to you in the course of your daily life, and not reacting to the provocation.<br /><br />Seen from another angle, the idea is to have low expectations. In a world where many people grow up with a sense of entitlement, this is much easier said than done because we have base-lined our expectations at a high level. Adding to this is the commercial world that sets a high standard of customer service as the necessary price of selling you something ahead of their competitors. We all enjoy good customer service, and feel we have a right to it, but consider how this might be distorting your perception of reality. They are only being nice to you so you will give them some money. The world is really not that nice in actual fact.<br /><br />Some of the time, even most of the time, our high expectations are met. But there will always be times when they are not met, and then you will be offended and aggrieved and trouble will inevitably follow. How dare you treat me this way? On the other hand, when your expectations are low, you are seldom disappointed and often delighted.<br /><br />There is an enormous pay-off for people who manage to not take offence. Not only do they not go through life feeling angry and aggrieved, they start to see the world in a much more positive light. When you allow the world to be what it is without trying to change it, you access an enormous wealth of intuitive knowledge that you can enjoy and use to live a happy, harmonious life.<br /><br />This is strategic non-action, and it is a powerful yet under-rated method of living and being effective in the world. In cultures where action is favoured over inaction, like in many western countries, direct action is considered a virtue while inaction is little more than laziness or cowardice. There is an advantage in being more subtle and nuanced in our understanding. There is a time for both action and inaction.<br /><br />Non-action gives access to a deeper intuitive awareness than that gained through action, since knowledge that comes through action is obscured by situation-specific reactions.<br /><br />Settle in for the ride as I reveal to you the secret of strategic non-action in the pursuit of happiness.

27 The Enchiridion of Epictetus

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Nonfiction  Philosophy 
Price :  $2.99
Release Date :  2011-12-08
Description :  The Enchiridion (Greek for Handbook, pronounced En-ky-ridion) of Epictetus is a favourite text of the Stoic school of philosophy. Compiled by Arrian, a former pupil around the time of Epictetus’ death in 135 AD, this enduring text is a compilation of lecture notes based on Epictetus’ lessons. It has long been considered an excellent manual of practical philosophy.<br /><br />Epictetus (55 – 135 AD) was born at Hierapolis in what is now Turkey. Sold to Epaphroditos, who was secretary to Emperor Nero, he spent his youth in Rome. He developed a consuming passion for philosophy. With the permission of his master, Epictetus was allowed to study Stoic philosophy. Over time, as his learning and wisdom grew, he became a respectable citizen of Rome, and an esteemed philosopher.<br /><br />Epictetus, unlike some of his metaphysical forebears, concentrated on making philosophy practical. How it could be used beneficially in everyday life. The timeless message of the Enchiridion is as practical today as it was in ancient Greece. Perhaps this is where the Enchiridion gets its enduring power and long-life.<br /><br />A central theme of the work is to clearly distinguish between what we can and cannot control in life. We can control what we think, and how we act. We cannot control what others think and how they act. We must put our effort into what we can control and refuse to worry about what we cannot.<br /><br />Following on from this is to limit our expectations. If we understand we cannot control people, then we will not expect them to behave in a certain way, and we will not get upset or disappointed when they do something different.<br /><br />Another theme is to not become attached to people and things such that when they disappear from our lives, we will be upset. This idea bears a striking resemblance to the central Buddhist tenet of non-attachment to impermanence.<br /><br />Epictetus urges us to observe carefully the patterns of Nature and learn to live in harmony with them. This includes accepting what happens in life with grace, without resistance.<br /><br />It is how we think about events that makes them good or bad, not the event itself. Our beliefs create our reality. The same event could be interpreted by two people in diametrically opposed ways, according to their belief.<br /><br />These have been a sampler of the many practical recommendations to be found in this remarkable book.<br /><br />The first English translation was published around 1567, though this book is based on Elizabeth Carter’s 18th Century translation.<br /><br />Stoic philosophy, an Introduction<br />Stoicism has come to have a narrow and somewhat negative meaning of being unemotional or indifferent to suffering, however this is a distortion. In a world of easy fixes, and mass consumption where pleasure is seen as the greatest good, Stoicism seems oddly archaic and irrelevant. Notwithstanding this, its real message has great relevance in the 21st Century.<br /><br />Influenced by the earlier work of Socrates and Diogenes of Sinope, the Stoic school of philosophy was founded around 300 BC by Zeno of Citium. Zeno taught that a wise person should not allow their emotions to rule them; instead they should master their emotions and use logic to think rationally about how to behave in life. He urged his followers to study carefully the laws of Nature and to live in harmony with them.<br /><br />A central point in Stoic philosophy is the active relationship between the laws of Nature that rule the Cosmos, and human free will. A wise person derives maximum benefit and happiness in life by bringing his or her will into harmony with Nature. They come to know themselves, recognising that their inner nature (microcosm) is a representation of the outer macrocosm, or universe; the same nature in both, differing only in scale.<br /><br />With its emphasis on duty and right action, Stoicism is therefore well-suited to the needs of those who would lead. It was used as a guide by the ruling class of Rome for centuries.

28 The Art of Strategic Non-Action: Learning to go with the Flow

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Reference 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2011-11-10
Description :  Strategic non-action is a powerful yet under-rated method of influencing worldly affairs. In cultures where action is favoured over inaction, like in many western countries, direct action is considered a virtue while inaction is little more than laziness or cowardice. Let us be more subtle and nuanced in our understanding. There is a time for both action and inaction.<br /><br />Non-action gives access to a deeper intuitive awareness than that gained through action, since knowledge that comes through action is obscured by situation-specific reactions.<br /><br />Non-action can be understood as an aspect of going with the flow, not resisting the larger forces that govern a world of which you are a small part. Non-action acknowledges that events are governed by the laws of Nature, and it is often best to simply allow those laws to operate and play out in their own time, in their own way. Taking action often amounts to interference which creates its own problems.<br /><br />Non-action can help us towards our goals by encouraging patience and taking the long-view. Humanistic Psychology says that it is within our reach to create the life we want for ourselves. As we think and believe, so we create our world. This is indeed true, but only up to a point. We can transform our lives in goal fulfilling ways, but the transformation is relatively slow, its progress measured in months and years.<br /><br />We know that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction; at least we know this is true in Physics if we did not sleep through that class in school.<br /><br />Less recognised is the truth of Newton’s Third Law of Physics in human affairs. Just as in the world of inanimate objects, when we do things to people, we get a reaction. This then causes its own reaction, and a pendulum-like cycle is set up. Think of how people and tribes get into feuds with each other. Strategic non-action recognises the danger of this pattern of behavior and offers the only means of avoiding it.<br /><br />Non-action gives others nothing to react against. The ideas in this book derive from the ancient Chinese concept of Wu Wei, as expressed in Lao Tzu’s classic Tao Te Ching*. First published around 2,500 years ago, it is probably the oldest book still in print, a testimony to the force of its message.<br /><br />Wu Wei literally means without effort. It describes natural action that occurs without contrivance or effort. It simply happens. Think of how plants and animals grow, rivers flow and planets orbit. No-one makes them do this, it just happens without effort or control in accordance with the laws of Nature. Such action is what we should strive for, while avoiding the kind of action that causes counter-reactions.

29 Becoming More Intelligent

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Psychology 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-04-07
Description :  Your brain is a truly remarkable thing. Neuroscience tells us that it is the most complex biological structure ever to have existed on this planet. It was made to work and work hard, probably well beyond its current level.<br /><br />You have the potential to raise your cognitive capacity beyond where it is now or where it was in the past. This statement runs counter to the common belief that as we get older, our brains inevitably go into decline. This is not true. There is no shortage of cases where people in their 90’s and beyond have minds that are still sharp and productively creative.<br /><br />In the absence of neurological disease, the decline in brain function as people age has much to do with settling into established and increasingly inflexible ways of thinking that has few new challenges. It is the mental equivalent of spending your days in a comfortable armchair, getting no exercise and watching mind-numbing TV. Sooner or later, your body, like your brain will atrophy through lack of use.<br /><br />Based on the work of the psychologist Howard Gardner, we know that there are no less than nine different kinds of intelligence that we all possess to some degree. Typically, one or two types are more developed in a person, while the remaining types are less developed or dormant.<br /><br />This eBook explains in detail about each of the nine types, and gives you action exercises to help you develop each of them to a higher level. It does promise to make you a genius, but if you follow the advice, it can definitely help you to expand your cognitive repertoire so that you can bring other modalities of intelligence to bear on the challenges that face us all in everyday life.<br /><br />Multiple Intelligences.<br /><br />Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner is well-known for his work on multiple intelligences. Since its emergence in the 1980’s, Gardner’s work is still generates debate, yet many psychologists believe it contributes greatly to a more comprehensive understanding of the nature of intelligence than that offered by the standard IQ test.<br /><br />The nine types include; Naturalistic intelligence, Bodily-kinaesthetic intelligence, Linguistic intelligence, Interpersonal intelligence, Spatial intelligence, Logical-mathematical intelligence, Musical intelligence, Intra-personal intelligence, and Existential intelligence.<br /><br />We possess all nine of these intelligences to a greater or lesser degree. Some remain dormant, while others are expressed more fully. Understanding something of these different modalities of intelligence will be of great help in recognising where your strengths lie. It can give you guidance on which ones might benefit from being enhanced in order to bring about a more balanced profile.<br /><br />Establishing a balanced profile across the nine types of intelligence will make you much more effective at meeting the challenges of life because your ‘cognitive toolkit’ has been greatly expanded. You will be able to use the most appropriate tool for the task, or perhaps a combination of tools might be found to work best.<br /><br />It is a tragedy and a terrible waste of potential that standardised school curriculums and intelligence tests that favour one kind of intelligence over others has produced generation after generation of people who believe they are not very bright. After all, their results at school and the comments from their parents and teachers seem to suggest this.<br /><br />A person who is well-endowed with some types of intelligence may have performed poorly on school curriculums based on the standard IQ assessment methods. A person with high Intra-personal intelligence would probably not engage with set school curriculums, even though they possess highly developed intuitive knowledge that gives them deep insight into people and situations. Arguably such a person is no less ‘smart’ than someone with highly developed mathematical ability.

30 Overcoming Writer's Block

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Writing  Books  Reference 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2011-06-13
Description :  Writer’s Block; if you are reading this, you have probably experienced it as the painful condition of having to complete a complex writing task, but being unable to get started and/or finish the job. With the right approach, almost any writing task can be managed.<br /><br />Overcoming Writer’s Block is a practical guide for anyone wishing to learn some practical strategies t

31 The Four Sublime States: The Brahmaviharas

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Buddhism  Books  Religion & Spirituality  Health, Mind & Body  Psychology 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-02-09
Description :  The Four Sublime States were a subject very dear to the heart of the Buddha. He spoke of them often. A person can achieve rebirth in a Brahma realm through the practice and attainment of the Four Sublime States; unconditional love, compassion, sympathetic joy and equanimity.<br /><br />Sometimes called the Brahmaviharas (or divine abodes) they describe an attainable divine state in which your mind, imbued with the virtues of the four states reaches out to embrace the entire world and all of the sentient creatures within it.<br /><br />The Four Sublime States are the best possible relationship with the world and everyone in it. They also offer the possibility of liberation from the cycle of re-birth when your time comes to leave this life. Could there be a more worthy goal in life than this? The Buddha urged people to adopt these sublime states as their habitual state of mind.<br /><br />This book outlines a way for you to cultivate these states of mind which have great practical value for how you relate to the world. They engender harmony and good-will with others and with society as a whole. They act as levellers of social barriers, and makes us feel generous towards others as we widen our circle of care to include everyone in the world, not just our immediate family and friends.<br /><br />A mind that has attained the four states is untroubled by random thoughts and petty considerations. The consciousness that flows through it is calm and majestic, like a mighty river fed from pure mountain springs. The river flows into the sea but the sea level does not rise because an equal amount of water has evaporated, become clouds, and then fallen as rain on the mountain again. This dynamic process illustrates the essence of equanimity.<br /><br />With the four sublime states firmly established and working in dynamic harmony, mindfulness blends with faith, courage with serenity, and insight with strength of purpose. They combine to make you an unstoppable force of nature. You are no longer prone to being trapped in the labyrinth of your own base nature, you have risen above it.<br /><br />Your mind becomes like a facetted jewel. The light that comes into it is reflected back out to the world as a beautiful focussed beam of light; healing, dynamic, divine.

32 Nautical Terms: A Dictionary

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Dictionaries & Thesauruses  Books  Reference  Catalogs & Directories 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-12-18
Description :  The nautical world, once an integral aspect of human civilization over many centuries evolved a language of its own. It is a rich lexicon that is well worth exploring, as much for its colorful language as for its more practical aspects. How many of us know, for example, the ‘above board’ comes from the nautical expression for on or above the deck, in plain view, not hiding anything? There are hundreds of such expressions that people use every day that comes from the nautical world. It is interesting to know what they are and where they come from.<br /><br />And if you are interested in boating and want to learn more about it, this book is for you. Knowing the language goes a long way towards appreciating the experience more fully. So avast your scuppers mateys and read on!

33 Beautiful Words: a Dictionary

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Dictionaries & Thesauruses  Books  Reference  Foreign Languages 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-05-23
Description :  As English has evolved over the past 1,500 years, words that were once in common usage have slipped out of usage. Some are delightful, others not so much. This book blows the dust off a thousand delightful words, bringing them to a whole new audience. So if you enjoy words for their own sake, or if you are at all curious about how people talked and wrote when the world was a quite different place, then this book is for you.<br /><br />Ever since it emerged as a distinct language from the West Germanic dialect spoken by early arrivals to what is now called England around the 5th Century C.E, English has busily absorbed many thousands of words from Ancient Greek and Roman Latin, the Northern Germanic languages of Scandinavia, the French spoken in Normandy, and more recently from countries that were once part of the British Empire (for example India). Most recently, American English has contributed many words to colourfully describe the modern world. The Oxford English Dictionary in 2011 lists over 250,000 words, and that does not include many more technical and slang words.<br /><br />Use this book like a hungry person might approach a delicious buffet lunch. It deserves to be consumed slowly, savouring the flavours and giving them time to be properly digested.

34 Becoming Self-Actualized

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-04-02
Description :  As Abraham Maslow observed ‘If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.’<br /><br />Reaching our fullest human potential is our destiny and by necessity must be our mission in life. Understanding this and making self-actualization your mission in life is the secret of true happiness.<br /><br />This short eBook uses Maslow’s work to paint a portrait of the self-actualizing person. Let it guide you on your own unique journey.<br /><br />Self-actualization is the peak of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It refers to the process of becoming fully human. It is a state that can be reached only when one’s lower order needs have been satisfied.<br /><br />According to Maslow, there are five sets of needs - physiological, safety, belongingness, esteem, and self-actualization.<br /><br />As a person becomes more effective at satisfying their lower order needs, they find themselves nearing the summit — self-actualization. The hierarchy of needs begins with the most basic, the physiological needs for oxygen, food, water and sleep. Once these are satisfied and in good supply, a person then feels the need for safety. They seek out the feeling of security, physical comforts and shelter, employment, and property. The next level is belongingness and love needs. Here people seek social acceptance, affiliations, a sense of belongingness and being welcome, sexual intimacy, and perhaps a family. Next is the need for esteem where a person seeks to feel competent, recognised by peers and enjoying the respect of others.<br /><br />Once all of these needs are met in more or less the order listed above, a person is on the threshold of self-actualization. To cross that threshold, it helps if you have a well-developed worldview in which you have a good understanding of the world you live in, plus the presence of ‘symmetry, order, and beauty’ to some degree.<br /><br />While you cannot order self-actualization on demand, you can create the right conditions in yourself for it to occur.<br />Self-Actualised (SA) people, whoever they are and whatever the circumstances of their lives, tend to approach life in the ways described in the chapters that follow.

35 Secrets of a Long & Happy Life

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Family & Relationships  Books  Nonfiction  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2013-01-24
Description :  The essence of longevity is harmony. It is bringing your inner world into harmony with your outer world, the microcosm with the macrocosm. Your inner world is a reflection of your outer world and the two should be as closely aligned as possible. The more conflict there is, the more stress and strain there is, and the shorter life tends to be.<br /><br />At the physical level, longevity is achieved by keeping your body flexible and in good working order. At the mental level it is keeping your mind clear and sharp, thinking creatively. At the spiritual level, it is being at peace with your world. Each of these levels is addressed in detail in this comprehensive how to guide.<br /><br />Secrets of a Long &amp; Happy Life goes well beyond lifestyle advice for long life. It works on the assumption that quantity of life must also be accompanied by the highest possible quality of life. What is the point of living to 100 if you are miserable? Nursing homes and aged care facilities are filled with people who are kept alive through advances in medical science, but whose enjoyment of life is poor or non-existent. Do not let this happen to you.<br /><br />The Romans had a saying; mens sana in corpora sano. It means a healthy mind in a healthy body. Mind and body depend upon each other, and both must be healthy. But having a healthy mind in a healthy body is the starting point. Secrets of a Long &amp; Happy Life gives you detailed advice on how to achieve this, and does so in a culturally neutral way. Regardless of where you live, what cultural and religious traditions you observe, this advice will work for you because it operates at the level of underlying principle, not outward form.<br /><br />From here, it shows you how to become self-actualised (achieving your fullest potential), how to cultivate your intelligence well beyond its current level.<br /><br />Secrets of a Long &amp; Happy Life does not shy away from the reality of death. Living in fear of dying erodes your enjoyment of life, so the book draws from ancient Buddhist wisdom about how to achieve enlightenment and what happens to your consciousness when your body dies. In short, it helps you understand how to have a good death at the end of a long and happy life.<br /><br />This could just be the most useful book you ever read.

36 Being Resilient

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-12-08
Description :  Resilience is a learn-able skill; it can be cultivated even if you are not a naturally resilient person. This concise book outlines how you can develop your own resilience and find greater enjoyment and fulfilment in life, becoming a more self-actualized person.<br /><br />We could all benefit from having strategies to help us deal with the challenging, sometimes catastrophic events that come our way in life. Losing your job or business, relationship break-up, bereavement, illness or disability, and being the victim of crime are all situations where having resilience should come to the fore. How would you react to events of this seriousness? Would it knock the wind out of you such that you would find it difficult to carry on? Or do you have the resilience to get up again and keep moving forwards?<br /><br />Being Resilient shows you how to handle stress in a positive way and helps you be the kind of person who bounces back and carries on, stronger than before. It describes what resilience is and how you can cultivate it so that you can meet those difficult challenges and go on to become a stronger, happier person. Being Resilient is an essential ability in your repertoire of life skills. With it, you can meet the challenges of life, grow as a person and approach your full potential as a human being. Without resilience, you become bogged in the problems that you encounter along the road and find it difficult to get yourself out and continue your journey.<br /><br />Resilience is a form of learned optimism, a process by which you learn to accept that in life, problems will come your way, many of which you have little or no control over. But here is the crucial point, you also realize that you do have control over how you think about and react to those problems. As Shakespeare observed there is nothing either good or bad that thinking makes it so. Your world is not fixed; it is created by you, by your perceptions of what happens around you and how you choose to think about them and react. This is an empowering thought that puts you squarely in the driver's seat of your life; you are in charge.

37 The Lifestyles of Long-Lived People

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Family & Relationships  Books  Nonfiction  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-04-06
Description :  It’s the thing that most people desire – a long-life, well-lived -- yet achieving it can be elusive. Sure, medical technology goes a long way, but what about staying healthy in the first place? This eBook is a summary of the collected wisdom of hundreds of researchers who have studied the ingredients of a healthy, long-lived lifestyle.<br /><br />It should be good news to us all that there are relatively simple rules that we inherited from our evolutionary past that have been proven to be true for everyone, everywhere; a few simple rules that you can apply to your life, wherever you live.<br /><br />Much research has been done into what makes people live a long time and be healthy. We now know that there are certain common factors that are true at a human level, true for everyone, everywhere. Of course, how these factors are put into practice is going to be different from place to place, but if we know what those underlying factors are, we can use our imaginations to work out how to live them ourselves.<br /><br />Looking at it from an evolutionary point of view, these factors describe the ideal way for humans to live. This is the key to understanding a long and happy life.<br /><br />The fossil record tells us that the human lineage split from our closest living relative, the chimpanzee, around five million years ago. By 200,000 years ago, humans were anatomically similar to people today. If a human from that time were brought into the modern world, cleaned up, given a haircut and dressed in regular clothes, it would be difficult to tell them apart from someone born in the modern era.<br /><br />Darwin’s Theory of Evolution by Natural Selection tells us that the creatures that survive are those that are best suited to life in a particular environment. Humans evolved on the African savannah, so we are well-adapted to those conditions. Our ancestors lived in small family groups on the vast grassy plains along with all the other species, many of which still there today.<br /><br />Humans were not at the top of the food-chain. That position was occupied by Lions and other big cat predators. Our ancestors foraged for whatever they could find. For millions of years early humans lived like this.<br /><br />Then, about 120,000 years ago, our ancestors wandered north and found their way across the narrow seas to Eurasia. So began the human diaspora that resulted in humans spreading across that vast land-mass to the Americas and down to Australia.<br /><br />Logic would suggest that the key to long life is to adapt your lifestyle so that it is similar to what has been called the Environment of Evolutionary Adaptedness. This is the set of what anthropologists might call the ‘recurring selection pressures’ that have shaped us into the creatures we are today.<br /><br />A less scientific way of expressing this idea is to say that we should learn to live in harmony with Nature; to harmonize our inner world with the outer world.<br /><br />The chapters that follow outline the essential features of the lifestyle of early humans. They serve as a model that you can use to adapt your lifestyle so that it is in harmony with our inner nature.<br /><br />I do not suggest that we should leave our homes and become hunter-gatherers on the African savannah again. Let us make full use of the modern conveniences at our disposal, but let us do so in full knowledge of the grounding principles that make us human. If you can find a way to combine the two, you are well on your way to achieving a long and happy life.

38 The Social Drinker: How To Keep It That Way

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Health & Fitness  Books  Health, Mind & Body 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2013-06-20
Description :  Do you enjoy a drink or two in the company of others, or does it go beyond that? Where do you draw the line between what is good for you and what might be doing you harm? It is not always easy to know.<br /><br />As a general guide, if you can stop after a couple of drinks, then you don't have a problem. But if you have difficulty stopping, when one drink is too many and twenty is not enough, then yes, maybe your drinking has moved into the red zone. This book shows you how to stay in the green zone by giving you strategies to limit consumption and advice on how to live life the fullest.<br /><br />Not everyone who drinks heavily is an alcoholic. Alcoholism, like dependence on any drug, has five clear characteristics; preoccupation with acquisition, compulsive use, narrowing of interests, denial, and relapse.<br /><br />If alcohol was all good, or all bad, it would be easy. We could simply declare it so. We all know water is good for you and you should drink plenty of it for good health. Likewise we know that cyanide will kill you stone dead in moments. No ambiguity with these substances.<br /><br />But it is more complicated with alcohol. In small amounts, it is not harmful; it can even be good for you. And because it feels good, it is easy to want more, and then some more.<br /><br />Long before you stop feeling like having more, a line is being crossed between what is doing you good and what is harming you. If we stopped wanting more when we actually cross that line, there would not be a problem.

39 Doing a PhD: The Hero’s Journey

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Education  Books  Professional & Technical  Reference 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2013-02-07
Description :  Doing a PhD is no easy thing. It rates as one of the most difficult, yet rewarding things a person will ever do in their life. Much has been written on the process of doing a PhD, as a trawl through a book store will confirm. There have been quite few good books published on the topic. In addition to these, universities generously provide detailed information on doing a PhD. The world does not need another book that goes over that same ground.<br /><br />What the world does need is information about the psychological factors that make a PhD student successful. They are the same factors that make a good researcher, someone who can make a contribution to knowledge in their chosen field.<br /><br />If you are reading this, you probably have an interest in what it takes to get a PhD. Maybe it is a burning desire, maybe more like a passing fancy. In any case, it is a major life-choice, one which you need to be fully informed about before you make it.<br /><br />If you decide to do a PhD, you should know what the success factors are before you start. Many candidates start out confidently but drop out along the way because they were not clear on this important point.<br />So if you are trying to decide whether to do a PhD, or are wondering if you have what it takes, this book is for you. It is a portrait of the successful PhD student. Do you recognise yourself?<br /><br />There has never been a better time to do a PhD. The number of people in the world who have the desire and the access to higher education is rising exponentially. As more people, particularly in the developing world gain access to the Internet more options are now available to people. Few things contribute more to raising the overall standard of living and quality of life in a community than education.<br /><br />The established university model has endured for a thousand years and is still going strong. Long may it prosper. In the 11th Century there were just four universities in the world; Bologna, Salerno, Modena and Paris. In the 21st Century there are around 10,000 universities around the world and the number is rising.<br /><br />The traditional university is now being supplemented by the rise of the on-line university, offering everything from Associate Degrees up to PhDs across a wide range of subject areas. Thankfully, geographic location is now no barrier to getting an education.

40 Charismatic Leadership: A How to Guide

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-01-29
Description :  While it is true that charisma is perceived as the result of certain outward behaviors, true charisma comes from within the heart and soul of a person who is reaching their fullest potential as a human being. This heightened level of awareness has been called enlightenment, awakening, Satori and many other labels. But these have connotations of mysticism that people in the 21st century may be uncomfortable with. So let us call it self-actualization, the name given to it by humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow.<br /><br />Charisma can be thought of as a subtle light that shines from within a person who is living their life to its fullest potential. People respond to this light and want it for themselves so they are drawn to that person as a leader. They perceive instinctively that here is someone who has reached an advanced state of self-realization and it is natural that they, the observer, should want that for themselves. It is after all a human need to become the fullest expression of your human potential.<br /><br />The qualities of a charismatic person can be summed up quite simply; they are positive (infectiously so), they see the potential in people and want to help them to achieve it, they envisage a bright future, and they are generous with their time and energies. While you might begin now to emulate these qualities, you should understand that they are a by-product of a larger process of personal development called self-actualization, a broad term covering many aspects of personality (this will be explored in detail in a later chapter).<br /><br />Being charismatic relies on a person having the emotional intelligence to know how to communicate with people at an emotional level, making a deep connection that is not possible at a purely rational level. Easier said than done, emotional intelligence is a difficult skill to master for people who operate principally in the intellectual zone. It involves understanding one’s own emotions, how to harness them to solve problems, and how to manage and regulate one’s emotions and those of others. In our evolutionary past, going back hundreds of thousands, even millions of years, our primate ancestors operated on the emotional level. Emotions are generated by parts of the brain that existed long before those areas that evolved more recently which allow us to think rationally. Perhaps this explains why we are so prone to being influenced by our emotions.

41 Being Grateful: Becoming Whole

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2015-01-26
Description :  Gratitude – how do we define it? Gratitude is when you feel a strong sense of appreciation for both the tangible and intangible aspects of your life and the world you live in. Coming from the Latin word gratia, for grace, gratitude is an elevated state of mind that is rightly called a state of grace. This book describes how you can dwell in this state of grace, and enjoy the many benefits that stem from it.<br /><br />When you live with an attitude of gratitude, you bring your inner world into harmony with your outer world, recognizing that so much of what nourishes and sustains you in life comes from a source beyond yourself. Gratitude makes you whole in the sense of making you feel part of something much bigger than yourself.<br /><br />The way that you view the world in which you find yourself is always under your control, regardless of how much it might seem others are in control. An optimist sees it one way, a pessimist a quite different way; same situation, two different perceptions.<br /><br />An attitude of gratitude is an essentially optimistic one in which you are in the daily habit of noticing that there is always something good, something of benefit to be found in any situation. It may not be what you want, but you understand that it is what you need in order to grow into a fuller expression of yourself. The world is providing for your needs, not pandering to your wants.<br /><br />This providential view of the world, and the appreciation that goes along with it, allows you to mentally connect with something larger than yourself. This could be with the community that you live in, Nature or a Higher Power. By connecting with this external power, you are transcending your egoic self. Going beyond the ego and connecting with a larger reality outside of yourself is the source of your happiness.<br /><br />Gratitude has long been recognised by religions and philosophy as a desirable practice, but for many, the connection between gratitude and a sense of well-being is not an obvious one. This book seeks to remedy that, showing you how being grateful can lead you to a deeper sense of satisfaction with your life; something which escapes many people in this age of entitlement, where a culture of complaint creates the opposite of gratitude.<br /><br />This is not to suggest that you should accept second or third-class service without a murmur. You can still point out where deficiencies exist and have them remedied without losing your positive attitude.<br /><br />The recognition of the power of gratitude by modern Psychology has been a long time coming. Historically, conventional psychology focuses on what is wrong with a person rather than what is right. Today, a growing body of research indicates that people with higher levels of gratitude also experience higher levels of subjective well-being and resilience. In other words, you can be happier and less depressed, even when your circumstances are quite modest because you have learned to notice and appreciate the good that is present in every situation. With the incidence of depression in the developed world at an all-time high, this is good news for anyone who struggles with the black dog of depression.<br /><br />The practice of gratitude also helps you in a general way to deal more resiliently with the set-backs that life serves up. It can give you a sense of control over how you feel about those events. You cannot always control events or what other people do, but you can control how you react them, choosing to think in positive, life-affirming ways that can lead you to feel strong and purposeful.<br /><br />Gratitude is an idea that has come full circle. The Roman philosopher Cicero believed that gratitude is not only the greatest of the virtues but the parent of all others. More recently the positive psychology movement in has come to embrace this idea in the 21st Century.

42 Being Happy: Part 4 Cultivating Virtue

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Psychology 
Price :  $2.99
Release Date :  2015-05-04
Description :  Being Happy: Cultivating Virtue is a short, practical how to guide for people wanting to cultivate a happier state of mind using the principles outlined in the pioneering work of Christopher Peterson and Martin Seligman whose 2004 book Character Strengths and Virtues is considered a classic.<br /><br />Peterson and Seligman did a broad-based cross-cultural review of what constitutes human virtue. They drew on a range of academic disciplines – education, management, consulting, psychology, coaching, and others. They also consider the major religious and philosophical traditions of the past 2,500 years. In this way, the authors were able to identify the core underlying virtues that have always been there, albeit described in different terms according to the culture and the times.<br /><br />Peterson and Seligman’s approach does not prescribe behaviour, it simply describes what the behaviour looks like, leaving an individual scope to devise their own interpretation.<br /><br />Being Happy: Cultivating Virtue paints a portrait of what each of the virtues looks like. It explains what they are and how they can apply in your life.<br />Use this word portrait to model your own thinking and behaviour. Over a period of time, months and years, if you persist with your modelling, you will gradually transform yourself into the person you have been imagining.<br /><br />It is important to be patient and persistent. Nothing is accomplished overnight. But as you practice the virtues, you will perhaps notice a steady transformation into a happier state of mind, one that is not dependent on fleeting pleasures, but one that is founded upon something much more substantial.

43 Being Mindful: Living in the Now

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality  Buddhism 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-05-12
Description :  If you can observe your thoughts, who exactly is doing the observing? It is not the ‘I’ that has a name and a life history -- your egoic self. This simple question is at the centre of the great religions and spiritual traditions in the world. Mindfulness in the Buddhist tradition is one source of answers.<br /><br />Beyond the spiritual benefits, there are numerous health benefits for the mindfulness practitioner. At the physical level, mindfulness has been proven by recent research to help reduce stress, lower blood pressure, treat heart disease, reduce chronic pain, help you sleep soundly, alleviate gastro-intestinal problems to name a few.<br /><br />At the mental level, psychotherapists are using mindfulness as an effective therapy. It is showing good results in helping with depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, relationship conflicts, anxiety disorders, and obsessive-compulsive disorder.<br /><br />The techniques outlined in this concise, plain-language eBook are easy to understand. You have nothing lose and everything to gain by learning this ancient healing technique to help you towards a happier, healthier life.<br /><br />It is surprising how many folks in the world around you are operating at a largely unconscious level, which is to say they are driven by habit and instinct; displaying the same stimulus-response behavior time after time.<br /><br />I am not suggesting that people are unconscious in the sense of being asleep. If they are driving cars and walking about, they have enough awareness to avoid accidents -- most of the time. They are unconscious in the sense that they allow their social conditioning and innate drives to determine how they live and act. When something happens, they react in their usual way without much awareness of what they are doing. This explains why people make the same mistakes over and over.<br />In this habit-driven state, a person is unlikely to be aware of the web of cause and effect in the world around them. They are unaware of how their actions in the past have created their present circumstances, so they have little sense of control over their lives.<br /><br />Mindfulness changes all of that, allowing you to consciously choose your actions, moment by moment, in order to create the future you want. It confers on you that uniquely human privilege of free will; the ability to transcend the primitive instincts that still reside not very far below the surface of your otherwise civilized life.<br />Mindfulness opens the door to higher consciousness. For the traveller on the spiritual path or simply someone who want a higher quality life, this eBook can help.

44 Communications for ICT: The Essential Guide

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Computers  Books  Computers & Internet  Business & Personal Finance  Finance 
Price :  $13.99
Release Date :  2011-09-27
Description :  Communications for ICT is an essential guide to technical communication for IT professionals. Whether you want to become a Technical Writer, or simply an IT professional who wants to become better at doing documentation (and that can boost your career), this handy guide is for you. Going well beyond the conventional technical communication text book, it also includes important topics such as professional conduct, argument/persuasion, software project documentation (like requirements specifications), international communication, high-performance project teams and the ethical technologist. These are in addition to how to write technical reports, user manuals and whitepapers.<br /><br />Communications for ICT is the prescribed text for a course by the same name in the School of ICT at Griffith University, a top-ten research university in Australia. The author combines 15 years of practical experience as a technical writer in the IT industry, with his ongoing academic teaching and research since 1999. Dr. Tuffley has produced a practical guide that can be understood and applied by any IT industry worker wishing to develop these important, but often neglected skills.<br /><br />Free Templates. Offering outstanding value for money, Communications for ICT provides you with instruction that is the equivalent of a high-quality university level, education. Included in the price are handy downloadable templates that allow the would-be technical writer to be off to a flying start with documents such as user guides, software requirements specifications, design documentation and test plans.<br /><br />Offering outstanding value for money, Communications for ICT provides you with instruction that is the equivalent of a high-quality university level, education.<br /><br />Main topics:<br /><br />- Principles of clear communication<br />- Writing university assignments and whitepapers<br />- Technical communication process<br />- Writing software user documentation, technical reports<br />- Modes of Technical Communication (paper-based, on-line)<br />- Tool support<br />- Editing techniques<br />- Cross-cultural communication<br />- Presenting a persuasive, well-argued case<br />- Effective team membership<br />- The ethical technologist<br /><br />Why buy this book? Effective communication in the workplace and in life generally is a major factor contributing to career success and happiness in life. This book introduces you to the principles of clear communication across the areas that a technology-focussed worker will need.<br /><br />The book takes a holistic approach by placing the content in its larger context of a person’s life. You are shown how these principles apply to your work-related activities, but also how they apply in how you think and live.<br /><br />The book therefore aims to equip you to become a competent technical communicator with a good understanding of the techniques and tools that are used to produce a broad spectrum of reader-friendly documentation. The book also includes a component on the history of technology, effective team communication skills and the basics of ethical IT.

45 Going with the Flow

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2016-06-15
Description :  Going with the Flow is your guide for creating harmony in your life by bringing yourself into alignment with the forces of Nature that govern the world. It’s good to know about them, because you can no more escape their influence than a swimmer in the ocean can avoid getting wet. Going with the flow is knowing that a vast river of energy flows through life and we are drawn along with it. Learning to swim in the direction that the energy is flowing is the key to creating a happier, more harmonious life for yourself and the people you care about. It is really up to us though, the river does not care if you swim with it or against it.<br /><br />Aligning your efforts with the larger flow gives you intuitive insight into the deeper nature of the world. These insights would otherwise have been obscured by the stresses and strains of the everyday "unexamined" life that so many of us lead, preoccupied as we are with the world and everything going on in it.<br /><br />This little book may be modest in size, but it is large with underlying meaning and the potential to make your world a better place be alive in. It teaches you how to raise your awareness of the patterns of Nature that can be seen and felt in the world around you, and to sense it with impact, and to contemplate it all without judgement.<br /><br />What is stopping us from living this way? Perhaps it is the tendency in us all to settle into established ways of thinking that your social group believes is right. Venturing outside of these conventional ways of thinking is to risk being ridiculed by the group. Are you brave enough to think for yourself, and perhaps resist the need to tell everyone your newfound wisdom?<br /><br />Going with the flow is like a woodworker understanding that he must work with the grain, not across it. It is to understand that everything in the world is subject to change; often gradual, sometimes sudden. We need to know how to move with the changes and not resist them, not be too attached to anything, since nothing lasts forever.<br /><br />Our willingness to put ourselves into alignment with the flow of Nature puts us into harmony with it, and gives us the momentum of those larger evolutionary forces. We become the kind of person that others might describe as ‘a force of nature’.<br /><br />Come along on the journey into the Flow. It is the key to opening the door to a clearer, brighter, more expansive reality in which you come to see yourself not as "a drop in the ocean, but the whole ocean, in a drop", as the poet Rumi said.

46 Being Alone

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Psychology  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-03-22
Description :  Loneliness is a painful condition that afflicts everyone from time to time. It is a sad situation that in the modern world, loneliness is at epidemic proportions. Despite technology making it easier than ever to connect and communicate with people all over the world, never have so many people been so lonely.<br /><br />Being Alone is aimed directly at helping you to transform the experience of being alone from a negative to a positive one. If you already enjoy solitude, it can show you how to deepen the experience to be even more rewarding. If you are alone and not enjoying it, it shows you how to change your thinking so that you experience a rich inner life that is more than a substitute for the company of others.<br /><br />There are of course many reasons why people find themselves alone. It is unavoidable sometimes. Other times we are alone through choice or circumstance. This book is for everyone who is suffering from loneliness and would like to know how to feel better about being alone. Knowing how to turn loneliness into enjoyable solitude is something you can learn.<br /><br />This book takes a positive therapeutic approach to the treatment of loneliness. It does not give the standard advice of ‘join community groups’ and other motherhood suggestions, though this is good advice. This ground has been well covered already.<br />Instead, we take the approach of helping you to understand the underlying nature of loneliness followed by a series of suggested ways that you can change your thinking around this whole area.<br /><br />At the risk of over-simplifying the situation, there is a dynamic tension within all of us. It is created by the competing needs for solitude on the one hand, and for company on the other. We all have these competing needs, though the degree differs between individuals.<br /><br />Sometimes we are able to get the balance just right. Other times not so much; we might feel the need to be alone when we in company and of course times when we are alone and crave company.<br />We cannot change this aspect of human nature. It is hard-wired into us at a fundamental level. What we can do is learn live constructively with it. That is what this book aims to do, show you how to turn painful loneliness into enjoyable solitude.<br /><br />LONELINESS &amp; SOLITUDE<br />There is a world of difference between loneliness and solitude.<br />Solitude is when you are alone, but not feeling lonely; not sad, not depressed. It is a positive state of mind in which you are experiencing some aspect of your inner life. This introspection can lead to intuitive insights about yourself or your life that can be very rewarding.<br /><br />Loneliness, on the other hand, is a state of painful social isolation in which you might want to be in the company of others, but for a variety of reasons are unable to.<br /><br />Remember, what you experience when you are by yourself is something you control, or at least have the capability to control once you learn how. It really depends on your attitude, on how you are thinking about the situation. As Shakespeare’s Hamlet wisely observed; there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.

47 What happens when I die?

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Spirituality  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2010-10-06
Description :  It is natural for people to shy away from the reality of death. The fear of dying is the root fear of all fears. Yet this refusal to acknowledge the impermanence of our earthly existence creates a deep anxiety that inhibits a person’s spiritual progress. Put another way, if we are to progress on the spiritual path, it is necessary to fully accept the impermanence of life and the certainty of death.<br /><br />The ego is terrified by the thought of death, since it knows that it will cease to exist when that time comes. As a self-aware living entity, the ego wants more life; it seeks to survive this threat. But the ego knows, deep down, that there is no avoiding death, so the it deals with the inevitability of death by avoiding the issue.<br /><br />By facing the reality of death, we are facing the root fear of all fears. By ridding ourselves of that fear, we are able to live fearlessly without the normal requirement for security and permanence that holds most people firmly in its thrall.<br /><br />The Buddha left detailed teachings on what happens to a person when they die. This is tremendously helpful for a person seeking liberation from the fear of death.

48 Surfing Lingo: A Dictionary of Surfing Terms

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Dictionaries & Thesauruses  Books  Reference  Sports & Outdoors 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2015-10-02
Description :  Surfing has grown from a pastime enjoyed in old Polynesia to a global pursuit with legions of devoted fans, the author among them. For many, surfing is a state-of-mind, a life-style that has become a consuming passion. For others, it is a highly enjoyable weekend pastime.<br /><br />This concise collection of surfing terms gives the outsider or beginner a window into the culture and language of surfing. Seasoned surfers already know these terms.<br /><br />Like any interest group with dedicated members, over time surfing has evolved its own sub-culture, including its own lexicon of colloquial expressions. This ebook is a combination of Hawaiian-American and Australian surfing lingo; the two dominant surfing influences. While distinct these have much in common.<br /><br />Some surfing expressions have found their way into popular culture; words like awesome and dude can be heard spoken naturally thousand miles from the nearest beach. The ‘California Surfer-Dude’ (or Valley Boy) stereotype has earned its place in popular culture, as seen in the Simpson’s character Snake Jailbird.<br /><br />A Surfer’s Code: Tempers have been known to flare when surfers don’t follow a few simple, common-sense rules:<br /><br />Don’t drop in. Wait for your turn in the line-up and don’t jump the queue. The person closest to the breaking wave has the right of way. Once on a wave, don’t turn back until you are clear of the pack.<br /><br />Be clear about your intentions. When starting out on a wave, let the surfers around you know which way you intend going.<br /><br />Keep your board under control. Learn to roll over with your board as you duck under on-coming waves. Avoid throwing your board. The wind could take it and hurt someone. Your leg-rope and ankle strap should be in good condition, not likely to give way under pressure.<br /><br />Paddle out around the side. Avoid paddling back out through the busy area where the waves are breaking and people are surfing. A rider on a wave always has right of way, so stay out of their way when paddling back out.<br /><br />Respect your fellow surfers, the ocean and the beach. Watch them and learn from the more experienced surfers. Try not to get in their way. Do what you can to keep the ocean and the beach clean.

49 Every Moment Is The Best Moment: The Essence of Enlightenment

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Self-Improvement  Books  Health, Mind & Body  Religion & Spirituality  Buddhism 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2014-03-19
Description :  'Every Moment is the Best Moment' is for anyone seeking a richer, deeper experience of life beyond our pre-occupation with material wealth and consumerism. There is nothing wrong with having a good standard of living, but when wealth and status becomes an end in themselves, we have lost sight of what is most important in life. This eBook is a short how-to guide that can help you to cultivate a higher awareness while continuing to live in the world.<br /> <br />The phrase 'every moment is the best moment' is the essence of Enlightenment. It captures the feeling you have when you are so fully engrossed in the moment that you have no thought for anything else. The barriers between your inner and outer worlds dissolve and you feel a sense of connectedness with everything.<br /><br />Every moment is the best moment because it is the only moment. Moments recalled from the past, or anticipated in the future are products of your imagination. They have no substance in the outer world.<br /><br />The challenge is to feel this way about the ordinary things in your life, the things that many would consider mundane or even unpleasant. The enlightened person learns how to take great satisfaction in doing one thing at a time, focussing their full attention upon it and getting into a state of ‘Flow’ (discussed in more detail later). They understand that the virtue is not so much in what you are doing, but how you are doing it.

50 The Dhammapada: Your Guide on the Path to Enlightenment in the 21st Century

Author : David Tuffley
Genre :  Buddhism  Books  Religion & Spirituality  Health, Mind & Body  Self-Improvement 
Price :  $4.99
Release Date :  2012-05-29
Description :  The Dhammapada is a foundational text of the Theravada Buddhist tradition. It is a collection of 423 verses, grouped into 26 themes that the Buddha was fond of telling to those who would gather around and listen. They are the oral teachings of the Enlightened One. How delightful it is to imagine him under a shady tree with a group of people around him, telling these gems of spiritual instruction.<br /><br />The collection of verses was compiled soon after the Buddha’s death. Interested parties and disciples met and agreed that the oral teachings of the Buddha should be recorded so they would not be lost or corrupted in the absence of the author himself. The Dhammapada is the result of that worthy effort.<br /><br />The original text was expressed in the language and idiom of an ancient time and place (2,500 years ago in Northern India). After all, the authors wanted to reach the audience that was alive then and there, not at some far distant future world whose language and customs would be very difficult to understand.<br /><br />This edition with a commentary expressed in 21st Century language to make it accessible to a wide range of modern readers, is based on the work of Friedrich Max Müller (1823: –1900) at Oxford University. Müller, who was born in Dessau, Germany, was an notable scholar of comparative religions. While the Dhammapada has been translated many times in the centuries since it was written, Müller’s version is considered one of the best.<br /><br />Every effort has been made in the writing of this commentary to preserve the underlying message that the Buddha wanted to convey. This has been done through careful study of not just the Buddhist writings, but those of other major religions and philosophies. This study has been performed by the author over four decades, the objective of which has been to identify and understand the sub-text, the common underlying message that all religions express regardless of the language in which it is expressed. If an idea, such as the Golden Rule of doing unto others what you would have them do to you exists independently in every religion, regardless of time or place, then we have what is arguably an absolute truth, at least in relation human beings. There are many such truths to be found across various religions.<br /><br />Each verse has a heading and commentary that expresses in 21st century language the essence of the verse. Müller’s translation of the verse then appears in italic script, complete with verse number. Readers are therefore able to easily compare and contrast the verses in this edition with those in other renderings of this classic work.



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